Dating a man with baggage
Dating a man with baggage
Same goes for someone who’s not over their divorce and has beliefs that affect their ability to be committed.I personally know people who have gotten together while one party was separated, and in one case the wife refused to sign so they had to wait for it to lapse and got married as soon as it did a few years later, and in the other instances where it worked out, there was no faffing about with the divorce, Future Faking etc.
These dudes are stuck in emotional "playpens" preventing them from forming healthy (and intimate) adult relationships and where the women in their lives are in the position of either pushing them around like toddlers in a baby carriage or screaming "Get up and walk on your own! Usually, emotional immaturity isn't obvious right away. If his mother abandoned him, he may be looking for a clingy lady.The Frisky: 7 things guys say that spell trouble 3.The Flounderer: He's unhappy in his career, either because he hasn't advanced as much as he thought he would have or it's not what he wants to be doing, period.After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads. A part of me wants to run away, but part of me wants to give her a chance. Financial troubles she can get herself out of in time. How much more do you think you'd be hurting her if you rejected her because of it? She seems to have a good heart, and seems like a good person. She recently just got out of a 3 year relationship. Not to mention she's got financial issues that add to her depression and baggage. When she's up, she spontaneous and fun and it's great, when she's down things get awkward.He knew what it was to make decisions, and have them blow up in his face.
He learned how despite your best efforts, things sometimes fall apart in your hands and break your heart.What we forget is that even if a person hasn’t just exited a relationship, aside from knowing our own boundaries (which can rule out certain things that we’ve already made a decision on in advance of), we cannot get all of the answers upfront or have someone tell us what ‘the ending’ will be.Each situation is different but what you can say with a high degree of certainty is that someone who’s just fallen out of their marriage, who’s still in reconciliation negotiations, who’s still very influenced by their spouse, and who has been separated for a long time ‘just because’, is going to bring pain into your life.When you say "recently" just how recent are you talking?I was a woman with some baggage when I entered my latest relationship but I didn't make it that any of his concern.I'm torn because I like her and I want to help her, but I also don't want to expose myself and end up hurt, or just end up being used as some kinda rebound shoulder to cry on guy. Quality in a sucessful relationship, would be if the partner was more interested in where you two as a couple were heading into the future, rather than being so wrapped up in what she had to go through in her past.